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My Writing Process

I’ve been tagged in a meme-style thing that’s going around at the moment by SheBoppin. And it was really fun to do! I definitely enjoyed writing about writing, even if my writing at the moment is a bit different to how it might be normally.

I believe I’m supposed to tag people at the end to carry on the meme, but frankly I’ve no idea who hasn’t already done one and I’ve also always hated singling people out for stuff like this in case I leave someone out and upset them. So, if you’re reading this blog post and you haven’t done it yourself yet, consider yourself tagged!

Without further ado…

First Off: What am I working on?

I’m not! Or rather I’ve just finished something, so I’m actually between writing projects at the moment. The future, of course, holds more reviews, more Very Short Stories, more posts in general and more submissions to erotica anthologies. In fact, that’s what I’ve just finished. I’ve been a busy bee over the last week or so doing research, plotting, writing and self-editing for an anthology of historical erotica, specifically set in the 1920s.

It was hard! Not only has it been a little while since I’ve written erotic fiction of any real length but I’ve never done historical before. And I may never do so again! I very much enjoyed all my initial research (I’m quite a fan of the ’20s already, which helps), but I found myself researching a lot more during the actual story itself than I’d expected. At some points nearly every sentence required a Google search! Notably, I wasted at least half an hour trying to work out what 1920s department store changing rooms, if any, were like. Then I scrapped that bit entirely anyway. Yay.

In any case, the story’s been accepted, so watch this space for news on the anthology!

How does my work differ from others of its genre?

Well, that depends which of “my work” we’re talking about. when it comes to reviews, I think I probably go into a little more detail than most, which leaves my reviews thorough but perhaps a little lengthy. I’d love to be snappier and punchier with them, like some of my favourite reviewers, but I just can’t bring myself to leave anything out, just in case someone finds it helpful. I also don’t sugar the pill. I’ve seen some reviewers reviewing products that I just can’t believe they’ve actually enjoyed. Sure, people are different, but I sometimes wonder if they’re just much less critical than me.

When it comes to general sex blogging, I think I’m still a rambly but it’s more because of a sort of conversational tone than any thoroughness. Clearly I just can’t shut up. I also like to spatter the blog with geeky references, but, hey, that’s just my life. Full of nerd.

As for erotica, I actually don’t feel I’m really qualified to answer! I’d love to know! And, heck, if you think you know any distinctive features of my erotica, I’d love to know what you think they are. I won’t bite. For some of my erotica, especially my flash fiction, I’ve noticed a bit of a tendency to try to evoke and use nostalgia. I like that and I hope it works well.

Why do I like what I do?

Again, it depends. I’m not actually sure why I like reviews except that I love sex toys, I love having Very Important Opinions and I think I don’t actually suck at reviewing, which is nice. Plus, I enjoy setting up the photos of the toys too.

For writing about my actual sex life, well… I’m not actually sure I do any more. Yeah. Awkward. It’s not that Crush and I don’t have good sex any more, we totally do (and we also have sex which is just “fine”, because that’s relationships), it’s just that I don’t really think I’m interested in blogging about it any more. And I have no idea why. It’s something I’ve not really come to any decision on yet, sort of hoping to avoid it, but it shouldn’t stop me writing the blog.

At “worst”, the focus will shift even more onto reviews, erotica and stuff about sex rather than me going on about me having sex. Because I’m not actually sure what the point of that is any more. I started the blog to be sexual when I felt “real life” wasn’t fit for that. These days, well, I’m a fucking adult, I can talk about sex all I like in real life and anyone who doesn’t like it can go to hell. Not so much need for a specific space for it any more.

As for erotica, well, I’ve always loved to write creatively. I wanted to be an author for quite a chunk of my childhood. And now, whilst I’m not making a living off it (or really trying to at the moment), I guess an author is what I am. Which… still feels a bit fraudulent to say, but, hey, Amazon agrees with me. Writing creatively about sex, incidentally, still absolutely grabs me. I think I might be channelling all my energy for writing erotically about sex into fiction rather than fact, perhaps.

How does my writing process work?

Reviews are easy. During periodic testing, I first jot down anything that leaps out at me about the toy. It all goes into a draft post as it comes out of my head. I rearrange that to suit the flow of a review and then see what else I can mention about the toy when I sit and think about it. I then look back at a previous review of mine and follow that same rough structure, using my notes and adding more details where necessary. Then it’s a quick proofread and post. Done.

For fiction, it’s harder. Er, panic? If the theme of the story needs research (like my latest ’20s one), I research. I think over hooks and ideas for what the plot could be or what my angle on the theme might be. I make notes of snippets or inspirations that appeal to me. I try to find a story that grabs me. I can usually feel whether or not I can make an idea work.

Once I’ve got an idea, I try to hash out a vague order of events or scenes and then I just start writing, beginning to end. Rainy Mood is essential, because silence cripples my creative thought process (but not my other ones). If I’m on a topic that suits music (jazz for the ’20s or tango for Take Your Partner), I can work with one non-intrusive instrumental piece on repeat. No new stimuli.

When I’ve finally finished (I get quicker the further in I go), I get Crush to read over it for typos and inconsistencies. Then I send it to a beta-reader (or two) who is usually the divine and intensely skilled Lady Pandorah. If she likes it, I know it’s not crap. I work on any feedback or clarifications needed and then send it off!

Prompted Poems – NaPoWriMo

♦ For those of you who don’t yet know, April is NaPoWriMo: National Poem Writing Month. And I’ve decided to take part! I’ve always enjoyed writing poetry and I’ve written a fair few poems on this blog before now. It’s an easier activity to fit around my hectic life than NaNoWriMo (a novel) or NaBloPoMo (blog posts) and, besides which, since Ashley Lister’s poetry workshop at Eroticon 2013, I’ve been determined to write more poetry. Ashley suggests that even writing just a haiku a day is great practice for a writer, so this is a great time to give that a test.

So, without further ado, here are the poems I’ve written for the first three days of April. They’ve all been prompted from a single word or phrase I stumbled upon in my search for inspiration.

Empire – A Haiku (from the prompt “empire”)

Fingertip army
Marches onwards to conquer
Your empire of skin

The Temple (from the prompt “my body is a temple”)

“My body is a temple”, you said
And I nodded my head:

“Your eyes are bowls of sacred oils
Your hair, a silken sash
The scars at your knees are frescos of the divine
And your lips, painted with the blood of sacrifice”

“Your feet are the altar at which I lay my head
Your hands, burnished candelabra
The scent of your body is incense and ash
And your sighs, soft tinkles of swinging chimes”

“You’re taking the piss”, you said
And I shook my head:

“When I lift my face and drink deep of your holy cup
You hum, you coil, you create and destroy
The walls of your church vibrate and shake
And rapture is sung by every nerve”

“Your body is temple, my love
And I worship at your cunt”

Hush – A Haiku (from the prompt “quietly”)

Hush. Come quietly.
Your big sister is sleeping.
Moan into my hand.

These poems were varying levels of difficulty and time to write. The first, Empire, was easy but took a little time to get the syllables working for me. The Temple was actually one I started on one day and finished the next, because I wasn’t quite sure where I was going with the end of it. It was mostly written on the bus. I’m still not 100% convinced. Hush was written in literally about two minutes as I finished this blog post and has a nice, threatening undercurrent that I like.

As NaPoWriMo continues, I’ll post more (if not all) of my efforts to show you. And I’ll make sure to have 30 poems, even if they’re 29 haikus and a longer one, at the end. For now, though, what do you think of these? And are you taking part in NaPoWriMo this year? ♦

Wicked Wednesday

TMI Tuesday – You Inspire Me

1. List ONE word to describe your last sexual encounter.

Intense.

2. Can you recall your worst sexual experience? Why was it so awful? Did you do anything at the time to try to make it better?

I don’t know about worst ever, there have been quite a few potentials on that list, despite having had two very loving partners over the years. Occasionally I become irrationally hard to please, which makes everyone upset, occasionally I had to stop mid-scene with Fractal because it wasn’t working and was making me upset.

The one I’m thinking of isn’t like that, though. It’s not THE worst, probably, but sticks out in my mind. It was one where circumstances screwed it all up. Crush and I were trying to fuck in my front room while Fractal was asleep in the bedroom (please bear in mind I was in an open relationship). Sadly, it was summer and the sofa we were trying to shag on was that awful fake-leather kind that sticks to you like glue. Crush has sensitive skin and that bastarding sofa made it so bad for him that even when we moved to the floor, fun was off for the evening. Poor lad.

3. Do you fuck outside the box?

We all have a laundry list of things–features, demographic characteristics, etc. that we like and/prefer in a sexual partner. Do you ever deviate from that list? Give an example.

To be honest, I’ve not done an awful lot of sleeping around. I would, but my open relationship with Fractal only had two flings and my relationship with Crush is closed. Well, OK, it’s closed but I’ve recently been told I can fuck women, at least. Which is huge progress, by the way, but I’m not scouring the Net for hotties just yet. That said, if you’re interested… ;)

Anyway, point is, I haven’t had a lot of opportunity to “fuck outside the box”, really. But I still think I have.

I had sex with a woman. But I’m bisexual, right? Well, I wasn’t then. Or rather, I didn’t know I was. I don’t know if it exactly counts, but since my “type” at the time was geeky brunette men I knew well, hooking up with a random blonde girl off the Internet was pretty much as far out of the box as I could get at the time. I had no idea if I’d like it. I did.

Of course, now I consider myself bisexual, so girls aren’t “out of the box” any more. But girlsex is still probably my top fantasy-that-I’ve-already-done-but-need-to-do-again-and-more.

4. Do you blend BDSM in to your relationship? If yes, just in the bedroom or in other areas of your life? Explain.

Yes, I do. Pretty much just in the bedroom in any serious way, but it creeps into our life in playful little ways and in teases and flirts. In the bedroom, I am a switch who almost always submits and he is a dominant who is happy to be my occasional plaything. My Blue Moon Dom doesn’t come out much, hence the name, but is a real part of me that needs airing now and then. There’s so much to cover on all this that I’ll leave it here, but feel free to ask.

5. Does the thought of your partner/significant other having sex with another person turn you on? Would you want to watch the act? Would you like to join in?

Yes, yes and yes. Crush knows this. I would love for that to happen. I genuinely don’t think I’d mind him having sex with another woman (or man, but he isn’t into that) and I think it’d turn me on a lot. Especially if she enjoyed herself. I’d totally whore him out. :P

If I could watch or join in it would be just amazing. I really want a threesome and I really love the idea of voyeurism.

I’ve always found it a shame that in my open relationship with Fractal he never once did anything with anyone else (as far as I know, anyway) even though I kept encouraging him too. He admitted that he was just too lazy to find someone when he had me, even though he knew how much I’d enjoy it. Not impressed.

Bonus: Fill in the blanks. I like it _____ on the outside and ______ in the middle.

Crunchy and smooth. Armadillos are the surprising alternative to sex.

TMI Tuesday – Hoo Doo

TMI Tuesday is about sexy stuff again this week, so I’m going to answer it. Now, most of these answers are sexual. Some of these answers are romantic. If I sit here and tell the obvious truth, that I want to do all these things and more with my dear Crush, it’s all going to get very boring and predictable. So I’m not going to answer “Crush” for all of them, even though it’s true.

He’ll just come up if it’s particularly noteworthy and I’ll try my hardest to think of some other sexy people. Gosh, that will be difficult.

I hope I don’t offend anyone. If I say I’ve got the hots for you and you’d rather I didn’t, sorry, but that’s what I think and I can hardly help it. If I don’t say it and you wish I did, don’t panic! There are so many sexy bloggers/tweeters that it’s hard to keep track. Feel free to give me a nudge in the comments. ♦

Who do you want to:

1. Play naked twister with?

Hmm, I have two choices here! One would be the members of Erotic Meet, because I bet they play a damn good game of naked Twister and a sexy one at that! Mind you, that’d be one big game of Twister!

The other would be my favourite Tantus-loving Tweeters: Epiphora, Sugarcunt, Bedroom Blogger and, of course, Tantus Jenn! I hope they don’t mind me saying that, but the truth is I have a big Tweetcrush on all of them and would dearly love to get together for Twister, tea and dildo-talk, because these guys know their sex toys. And knowing your sex toys is hot.

2. Love?

I do love Crush. I do love my dad and my sister. I do love my cat. I do love some of my friends, online or otherwise. But what I sometimes want is to love everyone. Sure, there are the minority of people out there who don’t deserve it and, sure, I probably couldn’t or wouldn’t love all of the rest, but I want to love and be able to love (not necessarily sexually or romantically) so many people. The world’d be a bit better with a bit more love.

And now I sound like a hippy. But a hippy who wants a harem.

3. Excites you beyond belief?

The lovely Lady Pandorah! Was anyone really surprised by that? She is, as I’m sure you know, my girl-crush Numero Uno. I have it quite bad. Reading her blog, seeing her photos, talking and flirting online, excitement is the thing that really comes across, that and a sensation of being mesmerised. I don’t want to scare the luscious lady away, so I shan’t gush endlessly. But I feel I could.

4. Enjoy ass play with?

Now, I know what I said above about not mentioning Crush all the damn time, but this one is Crush. I’m sure I’d do it with others (and I did it with Fractal), but the person I want to do it with above all else is Crush. I mention this because I can’t. He has no interest in it, either giving or receiving. But I think he might like it if he tried. One day, I hope he’ll be ready for that, because I want to explore every inch and molecule of my sexuality and myself with him. It’s a gift.

5. Shower with?

The gorgeous Jilly recently admitted in her answers to this week’s TMI that she has “a very secret desire to shower with Ms Blacksilk”. I have to say, I like a girl that can’t resist telling me her naughty secrets, but I do at least have one in return. Don’t tell her, but I have a rather large desire to shower with dear Jilly too. I think the mix of dirtiness and cleanliness of such a shower would be very apt and very… enticing.

6. Undress?

Let’s go for a celebrity one this time. It has to be Sasha Grey. She is beyond hot. I just cannot get enough of her and to undress her would probably cause me to die of excitement. But it’d be worth it!

Plus, she’s totally a Dungeons & Dragons player, which is extra hot.

7. Rim?

Back to the bloggers, I would pick the sexy Rose. I’m not actually entirely certain whether she’s into this sort of thing or not, but I bet it would be an awful lot of fun! It’s been a long time since I’ve rimmed anyone, boohoo! Anyway, have you seen her arse in those bath photos? Who wouldn’t want to put their face in that?! Hope you don’t mind me saying such, Rose!

8. Elope with?

Elope? Eh, can’t say I’ve every really wanted to elope. I’m not entirely decided on the whole marriage thing all together. But for the hell of it I’d probably choose between Victoria Coren, Richard Osman, Ursula Vernon, Shamus Young or some made-up person probably from an RPG. Because why not.

Bonus: Who do you want to wake up in the arms of? Why?

OK, OK, fine. You got me. This one is going to be Crush too. Not because I can’t think of anyone else I’d like to wake up in the arms of, most people on this list fall into that category, but because if I had to pick only one person to ever wake up next to again, Crush would be that person. Soppy, aren’t I?

But it’s true. Sometimes we get up at different times and miss each other waking up, but mostly I wake up an he’s there. I go to sleep and he’s there. I love that. And when I’m away from him, I miss that.

I’d spend a night without him, sure. I have done in the past and likely will again. But I’ll always look forward to coming back to him and spending the night, whether sexually or not, with him.

So there.

e[lust] #31

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~ This Week’s Top Three Posts ~

A Feminist Defense of Consensual NonconsentHow does a woman who identifies as a feminist reconcile her desire to submit to her partner during sex? Being somewhat new to kink, I had some trepidations about how submission seemingly went against my ethics.

IntimatesAs the evening drew on, I felt like the sexiest woman alive. It’s strange to describe it this way, but I actually felt brimming with a sort of sexual energy. A lustiness, a sexiness, an allure and a desire all at once.

Tightest SpaceI’m paying close attention to your moans, and I stop whenever it feels like it might be too much. But the incredibly tight feeling of your ass gripping my cock is so delicious that I need to get all the way in.

~ e[lust] Editress ~

An Open Letter to the Sex Toy IndustryI write this post not to just let off some steam but with the smallest glimmer of hope that maybe…….just maybe….some of these words will land on the right computer screen and be taken to heart. Maybe one change will happen.

~ Featured Post (Lilly’s Pick) ~

International #Fisting Day!!Beyond awareness and calling for action, I think International Fisting Day is a great day to celebrate fisting; an intimate, hugely erotic and often orgasmic act that doesn’t get the recognition it deserves.

Read More…

Love Our Lurkers

♦ My name is Blacksilk and I am a lurker. Not here, admittedly, then there wouldn’t be anything for you to lurk at, but I lurk. I have been known to lurk. As a blogger, I feel I should know better. I love to get comments. Sure, I write in part for the joy of writing, but c’mon, everyone likes to feel appreciated. But, of course, as a blogger I also know there is NOT ENOUGH TIME IN THE WORLD. I barely have time to blog, let alone comment on other blogs. So, naturally, there are some blogs where I can just about manage comment or even comment regularly and others where, well, I lurk.

I’m sure it’s the same for you too. Maybe you’re a fellow blogger like me and you just don’t have time to say hello because you know there posts to be posted and blogs to be blogged. Maybe you’re a reader of blogs who has other things to be doing than propping up my sense of validation. We’re all busy. I know that.

Or maybe it’s not that. You’re shy perhaps? You’re not sure I’d like what you have to say? Or maybe I’ve never said anything  powerful enough to move you to comment? Maybe you commented once but never again? Whatever your reason for lurking, I understand because I do those same darn things elsewhere on the web. Sometimes I enjoyed the post but feel I have nothing to add. Sometimes I don’t comment because the post has SO MUCH love already that I wonder who’d care to hear from little old me?

But today, for just today, why not say hello? It doesn’t have to be anything more complicated than that, but if you want to, that’s great too. Tell me how long you’ve been reading or what your favourite posts are. do you have something you really love or hate about what I write? Get it off your chest. Today is Love Our Lurkers day and, whilst I’d love you to come back and comment again, today is your day for popping your head over the parapet, saying hi and re-lurking if you want to.

Your comment, yes, yours, would make my day.

And even if you don’t end up de-cloaking and de-lurking for LOL day? Never mind. I loves ya anyway. Thank you. Thank you for stopping by, whether it’s now and then, regularly or even your first time, and taking the time from your day to read my ramblings. I mean that. Just because I’m here shouting  into the void, it doesn’t give me any right to have readers. You guys are a privilege and I’m honoured that you choose to spend even a little of your time listening to, and maybe even liking, what I have to say.

Dear Lurker, thank you.♦

P.S. Yes, that is a Lurker from old school Dungeons & Dragons at the top there, if you were wondering whether you were right. And if you were, why don’t we talk more often? :)

TMI Tuesday – Let’s Talk about Sex

♦ Again, since TMI Tuesday is sex-related, and therefore blog-related, this week, I figured I may as well give it a go. ♦

EDIT: Just took a proper look at the picture for this week’s TMI and realised how fucking sexist (to men and women) it is. I was in a rush when I posted this so didn’t notice at first. The image has now been removed here because I will not have that divisive, pathetic shit on my blog.

1. What sexual act arouses you the most? For that matter, what non-sexual act arouses you the most?

God, I have to pick one? Well, I can’t. I’m not even sure I can make a shortlist. Things that I really fucking love off the top of my head: having my hair pulled, passionate kissing, slapping and being slapped, neck biting, spanking,  pretending his cock is mine. As for non-sexual, not sure exactly what we mean by that. Since any act I’m aroused by becomes sexual for me, I guess we’re talking acts you generally don’t associate with sex but that turn me on. Well, I love to see someone be really knowledgeable of their particular area or watching them geek out in certain ways. Geeks in general, for that matter.

2. What is your signature or “go to” move that is sure to get a lover in the mood for sex?

It sounds childish, but I usually get my way by lounging provocatively on the bed and then calling Crush in for emergency hugs or other obviously fake problems. This also works well for when I just want hugs too. Failing that, my eyes do a lot of the work as does tone of voice. Once foreplay is started, I do have a signature move which I’m really going to have to explain properly one day (ooh, maybe I can use my new Tantus Adam as a demonstration cock and do a quick video!), which involves firm pressure on the head of his cock, lots of lube and a sort of odd rotating glass-washing motion. Yeah, see, this is why I need a video.

3. Do you queef?

Not regularly or anything, but I have done. Now that I think about it, I’m not sure I’ve done it since Crush came along so maybe it was just a Fractal thing somehow.

4. What’s the weirdest thing that’s happened to YOU as a result of your sex writings (e.g., blog, erotica, sex toy reviews)? (borrowed from Insatiabear)

I got invited to Durex‘s 80th birthday party in London alongside a bunch of really awesome and/or famous sex blogging people such as Girl with A One-Track Mind and Sarah Berry and all sorts of people. It looked really, really awesome and I was so honoured to be asked to go. The invitation was beautiful, I still have the ‘pearl’ necklace and the invitation itself. And then, FML, I couldn’t get the time off to go. If only it had been on a weekend I would have gone all the way to London just for that, but alas. Perhaps I should’ve just skived work, but either way I think I’ll always regret not going to that. Innocent Loverboy did and by all accounts he had a great time. Sadface.

5. Have you ever had sex while someone watched?
…someone else was in the room?
 …someone else in the bed, next to you and the person you’re having sex with?
What were the circumstances?

No, no and no. I totally would want to though, as long as they were willing participants. I want to try so many things!

6. When it comes to sex, and discussing it with your teen have you or would you:
a. Let school sex education handle it
b. Hand the teen a book or point them to a website
c. Talk frankly and openly
d. Avoid it all together–society, friends, and the internet will give all the info needed

There is no right option here other than C. Seriously.

Bonus: Remember the song, “I’m too sexy”? What are you too sexy for?

Like most anonymous sex bloggers, I worry I’m probably too sexy for my job. It’s not an overly stupidly prim one like teacher, nurse, politician or anything like that, but still, you get the impression many places wouldn’t be too happy about their staff writing this kind of thing. I think my job would be fairly forgiving, but you never know, do you?

I’m too sexy for my family, too. We’re not an open bunch and my sister is never quite sure whether she’s asexual or not. They’d accept me still, I’m sure, and it’s not that I don’t tell them because I fear they’ll disown me or anything, I just don’t tell them because I can’t really see why they’d want to know or why it’s important that they do. It’s my sex life, not theirs. My sister has come a long way, though. She was a bit flabbergasted at the open relationship thing with Fractal and the fuck buddies thing with Crush, but took it in her stride.

Sometimes I feel I’m too sexy for society and that’s mainly why I created this blog. I was growing into my sexuality and found society’s mores too restrictive and prudish for my liking. I wanted to build a place where talking about sex was encouraged and enthusiastic, where I could discuss and geek out over its many aspects. Society uses sex and yet is afraid of it. I want to change that.

All Aboard the Meme-Mobile!

♦ I figured I’d finally get round to stealing that meme off of Innocent Loverboy. But I’m going to take out the questions, which, through no fault of ILB’s, suck arse. Also I’m ignoring the rules because, let’s face it, at least one of those was cheap plugging. Also I’m a bitch ♦

♦ Sex in the Morning or Sex at Night?

Hmm, that’s a tough one. Morning sexies can be very nice, a good way to start the day (and the shnuggling afterwards provides extra in-bed-warm-and-naked-under-duvet time), but they can be a bit of a shock to the overly-sleepy system on occasion. Night sexies are very nice too, but you’ve gotta be careful to get started before you get too tired. Falling asleep does rather put a damper on kink (sorry, love!).

Can I say both? Or perhaps ‘always’? ;)

♦ Naughty Pics or Naughty Home Video?

To be very honest making either of them is a pain in the hole. Making sure the camera is recording/on timer, that it has enough battery, that it’ll stay upright, that you’re in shot. And with pictures only half of them at best ever look photogenic.

I like both. But I’ll pick photos for giving, because I’m a bit of a hussy and with pictures I can re-use them to entice sexy-laydeez ;) As for receiving, I’ll pick video. The naughty video Fractal sent me is by far the sexiest piece of porn I own. Gods, he looks amazing in it.

♦ Bedroom Sex: Lights Off or Lights On?

Lights on. Definitely. I want to be able to see every millimetre of Fractal’s skin, every reflection of light in his eyes as he looks at me while thrusting, every movement in his face as he comes. I feel sexy around him, he does around me, why hide ourselves?

Having said that there are those moments when we’ve both gone to bed ‘too tired’ and over-vigorous spooning has lead to desire which leads to him suddenly pouncing on me under the duvet, the lights still off. The duvet doesn’t last long, I kick it off us after the heat builds too high. But there is something rather nice about the half-dark sex. Sort of impetuous, mysterious and somehow very intimate. As if I don’t need to see him in the bright lights because I know him well enough to re-form his those bits of him I can only half-see from my head.

♦ Word preference: Pussy or Cunt?

For sexiness, pussy. For general rudeness, cunt. I may well try using cunt in a sexy way one day, I love the word. It just seems a bit harsh for sex though. Perhaps when I’m in charge ;)

♦ Spanking Over the Knee or Spanking Only During Sex?

Again, it depends. Spanking during sex is tough in some positions. And what with thrusting and all it can be a bit lacklustre. So I’d generally go with over the knee. Teehee, Fractal’s so jealous that I can come from being spanked.

♦ Word preference: Cock or Dick?

Oh Jesus, cock anyday! Dick is such a fucking horrible word. It’s a word I just never, *ever* use. It’s just so ugly. Whereas, cock. Mmmm. Now that has a flavour (please save me from lolcats). It’s such a satisfying word.

♦ Rope Bondage or Bondage Tape?

Rope. Tape is fun for the sort of interrogation/hostage style stuff, which is obviously very fun, though. Not that I ever use bondage tape, that stuff just seems so overpriced and lame. It doesn’t stick a little to the skin? You don’t get to feel the shock of it being lightly but swiftly pulled from your nipples? Pah! Gimme insulation tape anyday.

I have some rope ties I bought in Japan which are great fun, plus if you add ties to this category it wins the muchly. Shame I wear ties more than Fractal does. Tying a man up in his own nice black tie is incredibly sexy.

♦ Give a Rim Job or Receive Anal Sex?

I’ve never tried giving a rimjob, nor receiving one. Looks kinda like it might feel nice though. But as the choice is between *giving* that or *receiving* anal sex. I’ll take the latter. Bumlove is very nice. Plus I’m a selfish girl ;)

♦  Get Rich Stripping in a Skanky Bar or Get Rich as a Call Girl for Celebs?

Either sounds like it could be kinda fun. Probably the first though, unless I got to choose the celebrities. Because frankly a lot of them sicken me.

♦ Which threesome: Boy/Girl/Girl or Boy/Boy/Girl?

Either! Both! Dammit, I want a threesome. So does Fractal, which is handy. We just need to find a lovely young woman (or an *extremely* lovely young man, damn Fractal and his very, very picky tastes in men) who is kinked up enough to join in. Why can’t this be the kind of thing you can ask random people?

♦  Flavored Oil or Tingling Oil?

Never tried flavoured (unless by flavour you mean that it tastes of ‘bleuugh’). So I’ll have to pick tingling. It’s a bit nasty if you’re a bit raw though. Ouchy.

♦ Pearl Necklace or Swallow?

Swallow. I don’t go for facials anyway. What Fractal and I prefer is for him to come on my breasts rather than my face. I like *some* of it going on my face, but *aiming* there seems a bit odd. I don’t want to take my eye out!

Besides, swallowing is fun because its rare that Fractal comes in my mouth, so its a nice treat.

♦ Sex While Strangers Watch or Sex with a Stranger?

The former. We both have an exhibitionist streak. We may even try swinging some day soon (though I doubt we’ll do much more than have sex with each other, or perhaps a threesome).

♦Tied to the Bed or Tied to a St. Andrew’s Cross?

The bed. I’m lazy :P  Though I do like the standing-up thing. I certainly wouldn’t mind owning a Cross.

♦ Well, that was rather longer than expected. And to think it was meant to be a short post, not me waffling on, I hope I haven’t bored anyone. I tag Lady Pandorah and Lacestockings if they want to have a go. If not, anyone ♦

Six Words: Lift Me

♦ Despite protesting, Tom‘s been spreading the memey-goodness around like a bad case of the sniffles and, whaddya know, I got infected.

Here’s how it works:
♦ Write your own six word memoir
♦ Post it on your blog and include a visual illustration if you’d like
♦ Link to the person that tagged you in your post.
♦ Tag five more blogs with links
♦ And don’t forget to leave a comment on the tagged blogs with an invitation to play!

So, bothersome thoughts of dissertations aside I sat and thought about it. And then thought about it some more. My idea got a little modified by the picture I chose to describe it, and, I’ll admit, the whole things sounds a bit twee, but what the hell. I’m in love.

Lift me

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Blacksilk’s six word memoir: “He loves me always, lifts me”. And if you can’t guess who ‘he’ is, you haven’t been paying attention to my blog. Hmm, now I’m slowly running out of people to tag, but I’ll choose: Scarlet The Harlot, Kinkerbelle and Confessions of a Boob Fluffer.

Has anyone tagged Bitchy Jones yet, or does she bite? (Well, obviously she *does*, but I mean in *this* context) ♦

Thoroughly Stolen Turn On Meme

♦ This meme was daringly stolen from our dear Tom Allen at The Edge of Vanilla, which nicely stops me from having to do too much thinking about what to post. Thanks Tom! :)

1. What are your seven favourite tactile things that turn you on?

Sex (like oral, or penetrative) cannot be an answer. (Examples: silk, light tickling, etc)

a) Fractal’s skin, particularly shoulders, waist and sex
b) Being slapped on my face or slapping him
c) Being tied up
d) Pressing my naked backside up against Fractal’s cock in bed
e) Having my nipples twisted, bitten or sucked hard
f) Stockings held up by a garter belt, and sexy lingerie
g) Being flogged, spanked or hit with the riding crop

2. What are your non-genital erogenous zones and what do you like done to them?

a) Nipples: twisted, pinched, licked, nibbled, bitten, sucked, cropped and ice-cubed
b) Arse: squeezed, scratched, bitten, penetrated, fingered, spanked, flogged, cropped, ice-cubed and fondled
c) Neck: sucked, kissed and bitten
d) Ears: breathed into, whispered into and nibbled

3. What sounds get you sexually charged?

a) The gasp Fractal makes when I twist his nipples
b) Moans
c) Dirty talk or a simple “I want you” whispered in my ear
d) The sounds of the flogger or riding crop being swished through the air

4. After losing your virginity, what is the longest you’ve gone without penetrative sex?

Japan for four months, plus nearly a month at home beforehand. About 5 months. Though the wonders of fantasy-sharing and webcams meant that our sex life was still fairly decent!

5. What is your least favourite sexual position? Why don’t you like it?

Ooh, that’s tough. There’s nothing we’ve tried that I’ve ever disliked. If I have to pick something though I’d probably go for Reverse Cowboy.

I like it. I do. It’s just that it’s rather hard on my knees; I’ve never been great with that kinda thing. I know, I’m like an old bloody woman. I still like it though, despite the discomfort, as Fractal can spank me, and he loves to watch me like that. Plus if I lean back he can touch my breasts while he’s in me, even if the movement is then rather badly restricted.

It’s a fun position, just a little awkward.

There’s a bonus question, which you can see on Tom’s version of the meme, but I’m going to leave that one for now. I have a couple of ideas but it bears a little more thinking about. I’ll post the answers to that in a while when I have them.

Oh and for any Fractal-fans out there, he’ll be answering this meme too in the next few days so watch this space!  ♦