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Stark Contrast

♦This weekend I’ve been at the outstanding Eroticon 2014. Absolutely outstanding, in fact. There will be plenty more blog posts on the subject as I start processing the weekend and regaining energy. For now, it’s Sinful Sunday and I’m dying to put some of the things I learnt and the inspiration I got in Molly’s Saturday session on photography into practice.

Plus, I always like to take a dirty picture or two on the Eroticon weekend anyway, just because.

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Be brave, try things out. That was key thing I picked up not just from that session, but from the whole weekend. Sometimes I’m reluctant to take dirty pictures because I’m not naturally photogenic and I don’t think I’ll look all that good. But the whole thing inspired me to be bold and be true. Be honest.

So I gave it a go and, especially given this was the only shot of me I hastily took this morning, I’m proud of myself! I managed to pick my spot and get a mixture of stark contrast (see what I did there?) and diffuse hints of light elsewhere.

And I love how you can see just a glimpse of my Iron Man (there’s a hint) manpants and naked body in clarity. Geeky enough for you?

Now all I have to do is apply the tips from Eroticon and the confidence from this shot to my proper camera and see what I can do! ♦

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Excited for Eroticon

♦ So, Eroticon 2014 is just around the corner. It’s so close now! I can’t wait to come away too full of ideas to move, intoxicated on inspiration and mashed on motivation. And it’s been so long since I’ve seen everyone! Plus, there’ll be new people to meet. It’s all too exciting.

I’ve been preparing in anticipation. Not only did I fill out my Eroticon 2014 Meet & Greet, but I’ve been dusting off the business cards (it really has been so long since I’ve been out as Blacksilk, now that Erotic Meet is dead) and polishing my perhaps now-famous  Blacksilk necklace. It doesn’t appear that I’ve shown it on here before, but it certainly made the rounds on Twitter, prompting a few fellow bloggers to end up with their own!

I’ve found it’s an absolutely great way to make sure people at an in-the-flesh event know who you are when you don’t show your face online. Plus, it’s great for me as a fairly shy individual. I may not always have the guts to approach people, but they might approach me!

But what’s that next to the business cards and Blacksilk necklace? Some things I didn’t have before!

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I’ve picked up a new notebook to write in, even though Eroticon almost always gives us one in its goodie bag, simply because I thought “Ideas for tweets” was funny for Eroticon. Heck, sometimes there are entire sessions about that!

More excitingly, I have a new necklace I can wear alongside my Blacksilk one! One for the more gadget-minded, I feel. That’s right, that necklace is a little 3D lasercut QR code that links directly to the front page of this very blog. How neat is that? Now not only can people see my web address on the business cards I hand out, if they want they can just snap my necklace and go straight there!

Now, I’m not saying I think everyone, or even anyone, will do that. I’m really not sure how many people use QR codes. But I personally love them. Even though I understand the technology, there’s still something almost wizardy about using them, so it takes a lot for me to see one and not scan it! Hopefully similarly techy folks might at least give it a go. And if not, I love it anyway.

Now all I need to do is work out what to wear and then pack and I’ll be all sorted! Hooray! ♦

e[lust] #55

rose Photo courtesy of Sex with Rose

Welcome to e[lust] – The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at e[lust]. Want to be included in e[lust] #56? Start with the rules, come back March 1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!

~ This Month’s Top Three Posts ~

Why I Post Nude Photos (and blog about sex)
Discovering Myself Through My Strap-On
Sex Toy Shaming and Bigoted Wise Cracks, FTW!

~ Featured Post (Molly’s Picks) ~

Aftercare and BDSM Play
Two worlds

~ Readers Choice from Sexbytes ~

Regulating Our Fantasies

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Eroticon 2014 Meet & Greet

♦ So, it’s nearly Eroticon 2014! Well, it’s not. But it’s nearly nearly it. And that’s close enough to start getting really excited!

For those that don’t know, Eroticon is a yearly convention for erotica writers and sex bloggers with many, many different sessions on everything from spanking to SEO and more. I’ve been going every year since it started and I love it. Absolutely fantastic.

Every year there’s a little online set of questions to serve as an introduction to those attending. Here are my answers!

What’s your name?

Blacksilk. It’s definitely my real name and everything.

What are you most looking forward to about Eroticon 2014?

The fantastic sessions, that’s one thing. They are just amazing. Although I find myself much more muddle-minded this year about which to go to. Some jump out obviously, but others could be equally good and it’s so hard to decide!

Aside from that, it’s seeing all my blog friends again. There are less events that we go to than there used to be, so it’s been far, far too long. I miss you!

What are you most nervous of about Eroticon 2014?

Last year I had, essentially, an incredibly sensitive stomach brought on by nerves, plus a great dollop of anxiety, which really made me far too poorly-feeling to get anywhere near the most out of the event. I’m nervous that’ll happen this year, but I’ll know what’s going on and how to deal with it this time, so I should be well-armed against it!

What do you hope to get from Eroticon 2014?

My mojo back. I’ve become a bit lacklustre lately and I know Eroticon will be full of absolutely bollock-loads of inspiration and, let’s be honest, mild jealousy at the motivation of others. That should be enough to get me back into the swing of things.

What is your bad erotica writer’s pen name?

Well, people often shorten Blacksilk to BS. Luckily, I don’t mind! With that in mind, it makes my bad erotica writer’s pen name… Robustia Orificeicle. I’ll bust your orifice…. icle. If you know what I mean. Er…

Readers, why not comment with your bad erotica writer’s pen name below?

Bad Erotica Writer's Name

Little Known Facts

♦ I’m in the mood for sharing. There are things about me that you perhaps wouldn’t expect (or you might). There are interesting little snippets that can’t really hold the weight of an entire post on their own. So I thought I’d share some in a list of ten little known facts about your very own Blacksilk. In keeping with the blog, they’re largely sex and relationship facts or other relevant thingummies.

And here they are! ♦

  • I’d slept with Crush long before I ever went on a date with him. Luckily, we already knew each other very well.
  • Learn yo bitch’s particular flaps! For example, I prefer my finger-on-clitoris stimulation in clockwise circles with the intensity focused on the bottom left.
  • It took me about six months from the day I lost my virginity to the day I finally put a cock near my mouth.
  • I’ve been masturbated in an alley while trying not to giggle at impromptu dinosaur facts. Classy.
  • I won a creative writing award when I was 14. I’m glad to see that potential eventually paid off a little.
  • In a reversal of expectations, I’m into anal sex, but my boyfriend sadly isn’t.
  • I find it hard to crush on male actors, but very easy to crush on many of the characters they play.
  • I used to regularly masturbate to a CD released as an accompaniment to a roleplaying game. Nerd! (The game? Vampire: the Masquerade by White Wolf. The track in particular? Prey by Seraphim Shock. Doesn’t seem so silly on listening to it, does it?)
  • I had my first non-consent fantasy quite early in life (involving being tied up naked by bandits) and had some trouble coming to terms with it.
  • Green glitter reminds me of Crush, thanks to an incident involving the first time we slept in the same bed and a birthday party.

Sinful Santa

♦ Merry Christmas and a very happy New year to you, reader! I hope you don’t mind the slightly delayed greeting, but it’s been a busy holiday period of mince pies, stolen kisses, cheer and far too much Magic the Gathering. I’ve been relaxing, spending time with loved ones and generally making merry, so I haven’t had chance to post anything festive until now.

I hope, then, that you won’t be so bored of the whole affair that you’ll begrudge me showing you my Christmas Day outfit. I’m fairly sure that you’ll enjoy it!

Sinful Santa Close-Up

Ah, but you’ve undoubtedly seen my cleavage in pictures on here before. It’s certainly one of my favourite camera angles. It’s Christmassy, sure, but it’s not anything new. Well then, how about something a bit more daring? A bit more revealing? A bit more risky? My body, perhaps. A glimpse of face, perhaps. Not to worry, I know just how to pull that off.

Sinful Santa Revealed

Ah, a Father Christmas hat that hides a multitude of sins and a trippy background that does the same. No-one needs to see my Psyduck. No, that’s not a euphemism.

Anyway, I’m pretty pleased with how these turned out, given the outfit was for Crush’s sake and not yours. I didn’t intend to pose, but then the natural lighting was so good (isn’t it?) and I felt so sexy that I thought I’d get my lad to take a couple of quick ones before we got further dressed to go and open presents.

So, what do you think, festive enough for you? If you’d sat on this Santa’s lap this Christmas Day, what would you have asked her for? ♦

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HedoVibes Round Up #23

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Top 100 Sex Bloggers of 2013 – #16

Well, Jesus Christ. I didn’t expect this.

Top 100 Sex Bloggers of 2013

I’ll be honest in saying that I’ve been struggling with blogging over the last few months. Struggling to find the time, the willpower, the words. But mostly the time. I haven’t kept this blog as full and fascinating as I’d like. I’ve been neglecting it, unintentionally, and I’ve been feeling like a bit of a let down.

I was pretty certain that, if I made the Top 100 Sex Bloggers of 2013 at all (and I wasn’t even certain of that!), it’d be rather low down the list. It’s probably not really the done thing to say I’d be disappointed with that, but I would be. I can, and have, done better.

So imagine my absolute delight to find that not only had I made the list, but that I’d actually done really well! Heck, incredibly well considering how badly I actually think I’ve been blogging! Gosh, I wonder what I could do under full steam? In any case, I am utterly thrilled to find Being Blacksilk at number 16 on the list, undeservedly positioned above and among my betters.

And how much the better to find blogging bestie Lady Pandorah crowning the list! Our blogs grew up together, hers is absolutely beautiful and inspiring and the Lady herself remains a constant support, faithful friend and beta-reader extraordinaire. Congratulations, lovely.

In any case, time for me to stop prattling on. Instead let me just finish by saying thank you to Rori for composing the list and finding my blog to her tastes, to my fellow blogging friends (far too numerous to name) for their camaraderie and support, to Crush for his love and patience and to, of course, my wonderful readers, whether occasional or devoted, for finding me worth your time. Thank you.

Without further ado, the Top 100 Sex Bloggers of 2013:

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HedoVibes Round Up #15

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Welcome to HedoVibes, a collection of reviews and giveaways that were posted in the past week or so from around the web. This is a collection of adult product reviews & contests from real reviewers. If you want to be included in the next edition? Start with the guidelines then use the submission form. Want to read more reviews? Check out HedoVibes for a list of the latest reviews and stellar reviewers. You can also follow on twitter for the latest round ups. HedoVibes is also accepting photo submissions for each edition.

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Towel Day

♦ This weekend we went to the swimming pool. I love swimming. I’m a fairly heavy girl, so the feeling of weightlessness and grace is wonderful. I used to be a pretty decent swimmer, and I’m not bad now, just a little out of practice. But I intend to go more often. And I intend to bring Crush along too. He can’t swim. Not yet. But he’s learning. And I think sights like this at the pool are only going to encourage him. Or so I hope!

Hey, you sass that hoopy Blacksilk? There’s a frood who really knows where her towel is. ♦

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